Today I got an Email from a family member. We talked on the phone for a good hour before I read the email. My family, up until now, was not aware of all the other cases, battles … I’ve been working on over the past couple years. I finally unloaded the Full Monty on ‘em…poor things. It’s exhausting to sort it out as I live it, it’s gotta suck trying to keep up with all the details in a crash course. It feels too weird to be real, but it is.
Here’s my response to: Family member;
Dear Family member,
This letter rocks! Can I post it? (see below)
Now that you have the BIG picture, i.e., all the other cases एंड
issues folded together, timing, typos, accidental warrants .. you
see, I'm doing the best I can, they want to eat me no matter what, and
all the smiles and nods on earth aren't gonna help me at this point.
I just have to tackle each issue methodically and hopefully I have the
kind of attorney/s that CAN help. I spent this past weekend documenting
EVERYTHING. I’ve created a Dated Chronological detailed document.
It's fricken insane actually.
Thank you for all your support, whatever is going on here I will get through it and I WILL find a way to pull something good from it. Hey, maybe I'll go to law school hehehe,
Now THAT would be funny!.
I'm so sorry you guys are having to feel my pain. I've been taking it
and keeping my mouth cuz it just FEELS crazy. I figured I could handle it
alone. Not to mention it's exhausting having to explain all the various
issues and details in play here. And listening to it is a chore in
itself, I mean gads! .. how long were we on the phone? ...Holy cow.
I love you all very much, I'm gonna come through this. Hopefully on Christmas Day 2008 we can ALL be hanging out in our pajamas shooting Nerf balls outta big plastic helmets and drinking Espresso!
Wooo Hoo, I wanna come home.
Where are those damn Ruby Slippers?!
(From Family member to me)
Hey you, I have really debated with myself this weekend on if I should send this or not. Let me preface this with I love you and grew up in a small town with issues, so, I get it.
I believe in what you are trying to do, but timing is everything, now is not the time or place to fight this battle especially publicly. Just step outside the box for a moment and see what the rest of us are seeing. The whole family is frightened that you are burning bridges before you even get across......then what?? Burn them all you want but get across first!
That being said............ you know I love you RIGHT??? And I would not put so much thought and effort in if I didn’t truly see something bad coming from the depths. So, I am going to tell you straight as I see it because I think everyone is genuinely worried about you and this situation, they just hope you will handle it accordingly. So... my question is do you ever want to leave? Play nice in the sand box until they release you to go to KC with your probation then vent and blog away, put up the fight of your life and file all the bad mojo claims against Captain Jackass that you want ,but you're letting your emotions run the game right now and being the court jester is not how to win with the "dukes of hazard" mentality they have there. Some one has the "Boss Hog syndrome" and they want to break that hard-on off in someone and You are on the menu, you cant win with that.
You have to be logical and smart in your self preservation, not emotional. As your brother would say, "Keep poking the dog and it will bite". Do this by there letter as much as it pisses you off to do but take the slap on the wrist and GTF out!!!!!!!!!! Cause if you dont they will find ways to keep you there.
With your goofy sarcasm and hippy chick wit that you put into everything its just going to piss them off more (just like a sarcastic kid who doesnt want to listen to their parents even if they are wrong). It is the respect and acknowledgement of that authority that they are looking for. Quit stirring the pot and let it got stagnant, or they will box you up right or wrong because they can, to make an example of you by flexing their muscle!!!!! Once you are here then we can tackle all the bad with good backup that is not swayable because they live there. Fight it from a safe distance. They will find every reason to make an example of you the more you fight. Just buckle down, grit your teeth, smile and nod then get the hell out of there! Then rant all you want for therapy but you cant help yourself or anyone else, especially your son who needs you to do what you have to do right now, not what you want to do. How do you expect to help him stay on the right path and get through this change if you are "in the system" having a sit in to prove your point? Didn't you just get him out of their systems?
Court is this week, give them what they "want to hear" and lets roll out. MN is no longer a good or healthy place for you all any more. I love you............. finish this chapter and come home, we are waiting for you.
All my love and support